Let’s make 2018 the year we kick patriarchy in the balls…

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Feminism is apparently 2017’s word of the year, according to dictionary site Merriam-Webster.

 

This year was the year we saw the #MeToo campaign, and the outpouring  of account after account of incidents of sexual harassment, rape, and assault that women have suffered at the hands of men.

 

It might seem that finally women are feeling empowered to speak out about the injustices we suffer every day because of our sex class.

 

Yet, liberation is more than just a hashtag, more in fact even, than just being able to get your attacker to actually serve decent jail time.

 

True liberation for women will only have arrived when every woman on the planet is valued as a person fully deserving of respect, regardless of whether males approve of her existence, appearance, manner, career, ambitions, and behaviour.

 

At the moment, we are so far from that point as a sex class.

 

Yes, sex exists, it is real, and it is the core reason we are discriminated against.

 

If anyone, particularly a male person,  tries to tell you sex does not exist, know that what they are actually attempting to do is prevent you from naming your oppression.

 

Our biology has, for centuries made us almost universally hated, distrusted, and derided, by men, and because of our biology we have been made second class citizens.

Because of our biology our reproductive choices have been dictated to us by men, we have been subjected to sexual assault, rape, murder, torture, and abuse, again by men, we have been barred from education, the right to vote, and from entering the professions.

And because of our biology, we have been forced to behave, look, talk, walk and dress, as male people want us to, and then dubbed inferior when we have co-operated.

 

When we have not co-operated we have been demonized, persecuted, medicalised, dismissed as lunatics, or downright ignored.

 

When brilliant women like Margaret Hamilton, the woman who wrote the code that took humanity to the moon, pop up, they are immediately written out of history.

Of course they must be. Patriarchy cannot tolerate examples of female excellence.

It’s a startling testament to the persistence of women, that Hamilton  managed to achieve what she did, given the regressive  misogynistic atmosphere of the 60’s, where it was much harder for a woman to  get an education than it is in most Western societies today, where there were even less women in science and far less professional women in general.

 

Yet Hamilton comes along, a clear example of the potential and brilliance and tenacity of women, and what does the patriarchy do with her?

 

Does it applaud her?  Praise her for her triumph despite every obstacle being pushed in her path?

 

No.  Instead it rewarded her immense contribution to humankind by writing her out of history and giving a man the credit.

 

There are millions of Margaret Hamiltons, both in the past and today, women who from the start are discouraged from bettering themselves through education.  Instead of educating themselves, following their passion, and nurturing healthy ambition, women are encouraged by patriarchal culture to become fashion models, strippers, prostitutes, wives, stay at home mothers, domestic servants, appearance obsessed airheads who’s only concern is to make themselves as decorative as possible so they are prime objects for male sexual desires.

 

Our society does love a servile woman who knows her place, I.e. beneath a man, always.

 

When women stick two fingers up to patriarchy and persist anyway, even when they excel in their careers, as we frequently do, we are continually undermined, under praised, harrassed, under promoted, and overlooked, simply because we belong to a sex class that male people continually want to oppress.

 

We are not a free people when society so freely hates and disrespects us if we refuse to adopt the servile position, an inferior station to men.

 

We are not free if society does not take our word for it when we say we have been assaulted, harassed, raped, beaten, tortured.  And it often does not take our word for it, according to rapecrisis.org, of the 85,000 rapes committed upon women in England and Wales, in the year 2017, only 5.7 % resulted in a successful prosecution.

 

We are not free when we have to remove our body hair lest we be ridiculed and reviled when we walk down the street.

 

We are not free when we have to starve our bodies of nourishment and healthy food in order for our presence in the world to be tolerated, and for insults and slurs like “fat cow” or “pig” not to be levelled at us.

 

We are not free when we are sold and traded, trafficked, and used by males for their sexual pleasure.

 

We are not free when so many legal images and videos of us exist that depict us in degrading positions, being choked, raped, beaten, strangled, tortured, and generally denigrated.

 

We are not free when we reject males as sexual partners because we prefer females, and society thinks it has the right to force us to accept a penis in our bed, and if we still refuse, label us bigots.

 

Yes trans activists and liberal feminists I’m talking about you here.

 

If you are a female person who is not yet a radical feminist, you might even imagine you are free, that because you have a good job, a boss who praises you instead of criticizes you, a husband that loves you, you are lucky.

 

But are you free, really?  How much of your life is lived as you truly would want to live it, and how many times do you do things, say things, wear things, not because you want to but because you feel you have to?

 

How many times have you felt afraid walking home alone at night because of the threat if male violence?

 

How often have you wished you could ask your partner to do his share of the chores but feel you can’t do it because it would emasculate him and he might get angry?

 

How many times have you lowered your voice in the presence of a man, let him talk over you, undermine you, patronize you, while the whole time you simmered quietly inside?

 

Would you really, truly want to shave your legs if you could be liked, loved in your natural, hairy state?

 

Men can. They are loved and liked by our society in all shapes and sizes, old and young, fat and skinny, balding and hirsute.

 

Men do not owe society the debt of being beautiful, for women the luxury of being fine however they are is not allowed.

 

We must be beautiful and what is considered beauty is solely defined by males.

 

Men do not live in fear of sexual violence, men do not feel they must lower their voices or stifle their opinions when women are present.

 

They have not been socialised to be servile, they have been socialised to be waited on, so they do not help out, because they have been taught that to do so is women’s work.

 

 Why should women not be deserving of exactly the same respect as men? Why should we need to be beautiful in order to be allowed to exist? Why should we live in fear of male predatory behaviour, harassment, assault, and abuse?

Why should we have to serve men?

Even when we make ourselves beautiful we are still despised, a woman who is viewed as beautiful by patriarchal standards has no more respect, no more voice than a woman viewed as unattractive.

 

The only difference of course, is the beautiful woman gets the dubious reward of being even more sexually objectified. But all women, no matter how they appear, are sexually objectified, because under patriarchy we are only viewed as objects, objects that exist solely to serve men, for their sexual pleasure.

 

Our value is directly correlated to how sexually appealing we are to males.  Every single female person who is born learns this, which is why so many of us are desperate to adopt the costume of femininity, the robes of a hairless, infantile, brainless, docile, servile, silent, passive, painted male created parody, a grotesquerie of what men want women to be.

 

Men do not seem to want opinionated women, strong women, women with lush full hips and natural breasts, men  do not want hairy women with bushy armpits and unshaven legs, men do not want successful, brilliant, powerful women.

 

Most of all men seem firmly opposed to women’s true liberation, to us living as freely as men live, to us being respected as men are.

 

Of course men don’t want us to be free.  Why would they?

 

They are addicted to the thrill of their superiority, outraged at the very idea of having to share the world with women on any kind of equal footing. Men are entitled to the point of gross arrogance at the very idea that we might be our own beings.

 

In men’s minds, women only seem to exist for men.

 

The reason radical (aka real) feminists are derided is because we say the exact  opposite. We demand to exist only for ourselves.  Patriarchy cannot bear a truly feminist woman, because she continually refuses to exist for men.

 

She does not need male approval, even if she is sexually attracted to men, she still does not seek their approval.

Just as men who are sexually attracted to women do not seek their approval, the radical feminist who is attracted to males sexually, does not need male approval.

If men are in her life, it will be on her terms, in a mutually respectful, healthy, relationship geared towards equal pleasure for both sexes.

 

The reason so many women co-operate with patriarchy, why they pluck, wax, shave, and starve, why they do not speak up, why they play dumb when males are around, why they do not display their anger, is not because women have a deep seated burning desire to be as sexually attractive as possible to as many men as they can, so they can have endless bouts of sexual gymnastics.

 

It’s not about sexual attraction for women. It’s about needing, desperately needing to survive.  To not have the whole of society turn on you, persecute you, humiliate you, insult you, threaten you, and sometimes even, kill you.

For women, culture indoctrinates us that to survive in this culture we need to be sexually attractive to males.

 

Culture teaches us, we must be complicit to male desire. It tells us we must be pretty, passive, subservient, and that if we are not we will suffer a heavy penalty.

Women are killed every day, even in Britain, supposedly one of the most progressive countries on the planet for women, killed for not cooperating with patriarchy, for daring to go against their violent husband’s wishes, for standing up to men’s abuses, for refusing their sexual advances.

 

Women everyday in Britain, and countries all across the globe are publicly insulted for their weight, looks, appearance,  and manner of dress.

 

Women everywhere are punished should our behaviour be deemed unacceptable, I.e. if we are anything other than passive, docile, servile, particularly if we are not passive, docile, servile to men.

 

It’s no coincidence the latest wave of so called progressive lefty men rush to champion the prostitute, or as they dub prostitutes, sex workers.  

 

That’s their ideal woman, objectified, exploited, dependant on men for her source of income, hyper-feminized, there solely for male sexual use.

 

No wonder these so called progressive men much prefer the idea of decriminalizing prostitution, including making it completely legal for pimps and johns to buy and sell women and girls.

 

No wonder those men eschew the Nordic Model, which criminalizes only the sex buyers, and decriminalises the prostitute, a model that has not only been proven to increase prostituted women’s safety, but also provides them with exit strategies, education, and even financial support so they can leave the exploitative sex trade far behind.

 

In short, the Nordic Model is a nightmare model for men who seek to exploit women.

 

The last thing those men want is less women available for their sexual use. Men in general, it must be said, seem to love powerless women, and appear to hate women with agency.

 

Our media reflects this, we greedily consume story upon story of women as victim, or hyper-sexualized doll mmming and hawwing in fake sympathy at the rape victim, or scrutinizing Kim Kardashian’s thighs, all the while vicariously enjoying the thrill of a subjugated or sexualised woman.

 

And when we do see a story about a powerful woman, a political woman, a successful female scientist, as a society we feel revolted, our instinct being outrage, how dare she rise above her station?

 

In our culture, we love to see a powerful woman stripped of her agency, removed of her dignity, disgraced in her profession.

 

That will teach the uppity c**t, thinks the misogynist.

 

Oh, Mr Misogynist, we powerful women, we do not lie down. Not for you, so you can beat off in a grubby basement to your hate porn, not for any tom, dick, or harry down the street who thinks they have the right to grade us according to the male scale of value, according to our looks.

 

We do not lie down,not ever, not for the rapist who chokes us, or beats us, not even when he is penetrating us, he still cannot possess us, for we will never lie down.

 

We are powerful women, women the world over have this power to resist within them, and so, indeed, all women are powerful.

 

Women united are especially powerful.

 

Misogynist, you should fear this.

 

As a sex class, we will always rise, just like we have always risen, just as we have always resisted you.   We will be free.

 

We will work too, to ensure our sisters are free from your clutches.

 

We will do this because we know that until women as a class are free, until every woman is free, none of us are free.  For as long as it is acceptable for women to be culturally derided for daring to not be decorative, for as long as sexual crimes against women continue to be disregarded as low level crimes, if they are regarded as crimes at all, if you are female you are not free.

 

None of us can be free. Yet.

 

We are not free yet. We must change that, so my hope is this year, this coming 2018, every female person will awaken to her bondage.  I hope women everywhere will begin to identify the many, many ways we are bound by the invisible chains of patriarchy, and I hope we will begin to break those chains that bind us.

 

As as radical feminist I am single minded in my desire to bring women to consciousness, to empower then to shake free of the shackles of patriarchy.

 

There are many like me.  We cannot be silenced.

 

 I hope every female will soon come to discover the radical position and learn how it can help to undo the misogynist conditioning that has been indoctrinated into her since birth.  

 

We must undo the false doctrine that has taught women to live in fear and detest our own bodies, that tells us we are not beings in her own right, entitled to our own desires, thoughts and feelings but that we must only exist to please men.

 

No, we do not. We reject this doctrine.  We exist for ourselves.

 

Let’s, as women, unite with other women to demand true liberation, for all women, everywhere.

 

And let’s say bollocks to patriarchy this 2018.

Men will always make the same choices…women need to take power for ourselves…

80d94593082e33c9518f7dd8978f11bc-554It’s striking the amount of deep-rooted hatred, revulsion and disrespect our society, and the world holds towards women.

 

Misogyny is rife nearly everywhere you turn, from Matt Damon’s patronising and public attempt to define how women should feel about sexual harassment, to the way some trans rights activists think it’s acceptable to tell women what they should call themselves, issuing rape and death threats to biological women for daring to mention their biology.  

Misogyny, aka the hatred of female born women,  is at the heart of all the discrimination, harassment, rape, torture, infanticide, and slaughter of female babies, girls and women, in Britain, in America, and all across the globe.

 

Some people think women have come a long way, and while that may be true in certain countries in some respects, I.e women can now study at university in modern day Britain, have careers as lawyers, doctors etc… in many other crucial ways, misogyny has never disappeared and has even morphed into evermore malignant strains.

 

What am I talking about? 

 

Perhaps you think it’s not possible that anything could be worse for women today than it was in say Victorian times or even medieval times?

 

No one would argue that in medieval times women had more freedom than today, that would be an obvious nonsense.

Medieval women had to suffer the scold’s bridle, witch trials, and were banned from getting an education and entering the professions.

But unlike modern women they didn’t have hate porn.  They didn’t have pressure to be a size Zero and the subsequent skyrocketing rates of anorexia that we see in girls and women today, they didn’t have trans activists issuing them death threats for daring to state that yes, the female sex exists.

 

I say this not to advocate a return to medieval times, which would be frightful, but to illustrate the many and devious ways the slippery serpent that is misogyny develops, morphs, and changes – in response to women’s progress in society.

As soon as women make any kind of progress towards making their own choices, if those choices are in conflict with the ones men want women to make, you can be sure misogyny will rear its ugly head.

After all, what is hate porn but the sexualization of men’s contempt, anger, and frustration to women?

The endless videos and pictures depicting women being choked, raped, beaten, insulted, slapped, and otherwise denigrated and humiliated are regularly viewed by men in their millions.

This is material designed by males for males, created so males can derive a puerile sense of power from watching the denigration of a female human being.

 

Why do they need to do this, particularly now?  

Why now are we seeing the influx of this stuff, why are we bombarded with wave after wave of images and videos depicting the cruel, inhumane, and nausea inducing acts that men want to do to women or at the very least, to see done to women.

 

Apart from the obvious answer, which is that as humanity embraces technology the creation and sharing of all sorts of materials good and bad is enabled, there is another simple, yet appalling truth to be found.

 

There is a clear correlation with the rise of hate porn that depicts the denigration of women and the shift that has taken place in society, where (some) women have broken free of the patriarchal home (aka kitchen) shaken off their (un) happy housewife role and begun to participate in careers and public life for themselves.  More women today than ever before, at least in modern Britain, have a voice, have financial independence, choose not get married, or have children.

 

For some reason, seeing women make independent choices they (men) don’t want them to make, and having to interact with women on any sort of equal platform makes men itch. It makes them feel uncomfortable.

 

It’s not an exaggeration to say they outright resent it,  I have known some men who are incensed to the point of rage just by seeing a women with power with position, with a voice.

 

Why?

 

The big reason for this is patriarchal society, a society that conditions men from birth to believe that they and only they must be the brave adventurers venturing forth into the world, they and only they should earn the money, they and only they are capable, clever, rational, logical, talented.

 

So when along a woman comes who is cleverer, better, smarter, more logical, more talented than they, or heck, when any woman comes along at all doing anything men have been taught only they should do, well hey presto.

Men panic. Men hate.

Men panic and hate because her very presence makes them feel less “masculine”.  This is something most men desperately need to feel because culture, their culture, continually tells them they must.

By purporting the lie that males must be masculine and females feminine, and assigning superiority to the masculine and inferiority to the feminine, men ensure they must be masculine, whether they are or not, or they fail to be a man.

They’ve trapped themselves, the poor deluded fools.

In reality anyone can be masculine or feminine, regardless of sex. Boys can like baking, or wearing pink, or paint painting their nails, just because those are “feminine” things it doesn’t mean they have failed as men. Equally, girls can enjoy climbing trees, digging dirt, driving monster trucks, and shaving their heads, just because those are seen as stereotypical masculine things, it doesn’t mean they aren’t women.

Liking feminine things or being feminine in your expression, behaviour, or speech does not a woman make. Femininity is not the sole preserve of women but in patriarchy it gets forced on us because it is dubbed inferior by MEN.

So when confronted with a powerful woman,  the fragile little lambs (men)  are faced with a threat.  They feel less of a man and need to actualise themselves back to feeling masculine quick smart. 

The typical, easiest and quickest (sickest? way they have managed to get back to feeling the sense of superiority this sick, sick society tells them they should have, is by denigrating that woman, any woman, all women.

Sick, ain’t it?   And to think, they’ve done all this, not only to women but also to themselves.

All because men’s need for a slave class, a subjugated people (women) is so great. So great, they don’t care even if men suffer because of it. The irony is that even though men are benefiting from patriarchy, they are also suffering from patriarchy too.  Not that I much care at this point in time.

I care about women.  Women did not create patriarchy, they do not benefit from it. I centre them.

And so men stubbornly continue, clinging to patriarchy, instead of just embracing people, all people, as people.  People with an infinite ability to be feminine or masculine, irrespective of sex.  You’d think one of these days men would, you know, do the human thing wouldn’t you?

 

And to think women are the ones that get blamed for everything.

Men today might well have a female doctor, a female professor, a female boss, but if they can still degrade women as a class, if they can reduce us to nothing but objects, bodies, then men can, in their own tiny minds, keep their special (aka) superior status.

 

None of this is women’s problem of course. They didn’t create patriarchy, they didn’t create a society that keeps pushing this unhealthy viewpoint onto males, a viewpoint which women end up inevitably bearing the brunt of.

 

Men did. This is what they do, this is what they will always choose to do whenever they have freewill to create whatever society they want.

 

This is not a hateful thing to say, it is simply the truth. It’s been centuries, millennia even now.

 

We can only come to the conclusion that this is what men do.

 

Who has had freewill to fashion the world in the way they want to for centuries?  Clue, it’s not women.

 

The way the world is, in a patriarchy, is exactly how men want it. There are no excuses that can possibly be made on men’s behalf for the society they have created, a society that consistently despises women.

 

If women want a different world, there is no other choice but to take the power.  Whenever they have the power, men will always make the same choices, albeit in different ways, a fact evidenced by patriarchy all over the globe. From Britain to Afghanistan, wherever men are in control, patriarchy thrives, and women receive second class status.

 

My plea is this, to any woman reading this, if you have not already aligned yourself with radical feminist causes, if you are not yet working to end patriarchy, to end the power men have over women, my question is why?

 

Don’t you deserve better? Better than being labelled a second class citizen?  

 

If you are disheartened because you feel men will never relinquish their power you are right.

 

But we don’t need men to give up their power.  Because we have the power to take it from them.

 

If you think I’m wrong, just imagine this.

 

If every woman on the planet said no to patriarchy, stuck two fingers up to misogyny, if every woman united in support, the way sisters can unite and have proved they can unite before, the way we have united in other struggles against injustice, do you think we would still have a patriarchy?  

 

I think not. I know not.

 

If women everywhere unite in solidarity, patriarchy will be done with overnight.

 

It wouldn’t matter what men want or how much they resisted.   Half the world’s population is more than enough to win this war. Let’s pluck misogyny out by the root and create a culture where misogyny cannot thrive, a world that nourishes and cherishes women.  And after we create this world, then let’s remain ever watchful so misogyny can never grow back.

 

If you have a female body, don’t you want to live in a world where you can flourish? I know that world is long overdue…

Look up your local radfem group on FB, or other online spaces, and look too, for ways to reach out and connect with radical feminists in the offline world.

Let’s band together in sisterly solidarity and make a world that loves and respects women.