It’s striking the amount of deep-rooted hatred, revulsion and disrespect our society, and the world holds towards women.
Misogyny is rife nearly everywhere you turn, from Matt Damon’s patronising and public attempt to define how women should feel about sexual harassment, to the way some trans rights activists think it’s acceptable to tell women what they should call themselves, issuing rape and death threats to biological women for daring to mention their biology.
Misogyny, aka the hatred of female born women, is at the heart of all the discrimination, harassment, rape, torture, infanticide, and slaughter of female babies, girls and women, in Britain, in America, and all across the globe.
Some people think women have come a long way, and while that may be true in certain countries in some respects, I.e women can now study at university in modern day Britain, have careers as lawyers, doctors etc… in many other crucial ways, misogyny has never disappeared and has even morphed into evermore malignant strains.
What am I talking about?
Perhaps you think it’s not possible that anything could be worse for women today than it was in say Victorian times or even medieval times?
No one would argue that in medieval times women had more freedom than today, that would be an obvious nonsense.
Medieval women had to suffer the scold’s bridle, witch trials, and were banned from getting an education and entering the professions.
But unlike modern women they didn’t have hate porn. They didn’t have pressure to be a size Zero and the subsequent skyrocketing rates of anorexia that we see in girls and women today, they didn’t have trans activists issuing them death threats for daring to state that yes, the female sex exists.
I say this not to advocate a return to medieval times, which would be frightful, but to illustrate the many and devious ways the slippery serpent that is misogyny develops, morphs, and changes – in response to women’s progress in society.
As soon as women make any kind of progress towards making their own choices, if those choices are in conflict with the ones men want women to make, you can be sure misogyny will rear its ugly head.
After all, what is hate porn but the sexualization of men’s contempt, anger, and frustration to women?
The endless videos and pictures depicting women being choked, raped, beaten, insulted, slapped, and otherwise denigrated and humiliated are regularly viewed by men in their millions.
This is material designed by males for males, created so males can derive a puerile sense of power from watching the denigration of a female human being.
Why do they need to do this, particularly now?
Why now are we seeing the influx of this stuff, why are we bombarded with wave after wave of images and videos depicting the cruel, inhumane, and nausea inducing acts that men want to do to women or at the very least, to see done to women.
Apart from the obvious answer, which is that as humanity embraces technology the creation and sharing of all sorts of materials good and bad is enabled, there is another simple, yet appalling truth to be found.
There is a clear correlation with the rise of hate porn that depicts the denigration of women and the shift that has taken place in society, where (some) women have broken free of the patriarchal home (aka kitchen) shaken off their (un) happy housewife role and begun to participate in careers and public life for themselves. More women today than ever before, at least in modern Britain, have a voice, have financial independence, choose not get married, or have children.
For some reason, seeing women make independent choices they (men) don’t want them to make, and having to interact with women on any sort of equal platform makes men itch. It makes them feel uncomfortable.
It’s not an exaggeration to say they outright resent it, I have known some men who are incensed to the point of rage just by seeing a women with power with position, with a voice.
The big reason for this is patriarchal society, a society that conditions men from birth to believe that they and only they must be the brave adventurers venturing forth into the world, they and only they should earn the money, they and only they are capable, clever, rational, logical, talented.
So when along a woman comes who is cleverer, better, smarter, more logical, more talented than they, or heck, when any woman comes along at all doing anything men have been taught only they should do, well hey presto.
Men panic. Men hate.
Men panic and hate because her very presence makes them feel less “masculine”. This is something most men desperately need to feel because culture, their culture, continually tells them they must.
By purporting the lie that males must be masculine and females feminine, and assigning superiority to the masculine and inferiority to the feminine, men ensure they must be masculine, whether they are or not, or they fail to be a man.
They’ve trapped themselves, the poor deluded fools.
In reality anyone can be masculine or feminine, regardless of sex. Boys can like baking, or wearing pink, or paint painting their nails, just because those are “feminine” things it doesn’t mean they have failed as men. Equally, girls can enjoy climbing trees, digging dirt, driving monster trucks, and shaving their heads, just because those are seen as stereotypical masculine things, it doesn’t mean they aren’t women.
Liking feminine things or being feminine in your expression, behaviour, or speech does not a woman make. Femininity is not the sole preserve of women but in patriarchy it gets forced on us because it is dubbed inferior by MEN.
So when confronted with a powerful woman, the fragile little lambs (men) are faced with a threat. They feel less of a man and need to actualise themselves back to feeling masculine quick smart.
The typical, easiest and quickest (sickest? way they have managed to get back to feeling the sense of superiority this sick, sick society tells them they should have, is by denigrating that woman, any woman, all women.
Sick, ain’t it? And to think, they’ve done all this, not only to women but also to themselves.
All because men’s need for a slave class, a subjugated people (women) is so great. So great, they don’t care even if men suffer because of it. The irony is that even though men are benefiting from patriarchy, they are also suffering from patriarchy too. Not that I much care at this point in time.
I care about women. Women did not create patriarchy, they do not benefit from it. I centre them.
And so men stubbornly continue, clinging to patriarchy, instead of just embracing people, all people, as people. People with an infinite ability to be feminine or masculine, irrespective of sex. You’d think one of these days men would, you know, do the human thing wouldn’t you?
And to think women are the ones that get blamed for everything.
Men today might well have a female doctor, a female professor, a female boss, but if they can still degrade women as a class, if they can reduce us to nothing but objects, bodies, then men can, in their own tiny minds, keep their special (aka) superior status.
None of this is women’s problem of course. They didn’t create patriarchy, they didn’t create a society that keeps pushing this unhealthy viewpoint onto males, a viewpoint which women end up inevitably bearing the brunt of.
Men did. This is what they do, this is what they will always choose to do whenever they have freewill to create whatever society they want.
This is not a hateful thing to say, it is simply the truth. It’s been centuries, millennia even now.
We can only come to the conclusion that this is what men do.
Who has had freewill to fashion the world in the way they want to for centuries? Clue, it’s not women.
The way the world is, in a patriarchy, is exactly how men want it. There are no excuses that can possibly be made on men’s behalf for the society they have created, a society that consistently despises women.
If women want a different world, there is no other choice but to take the power. Whenever they have the power, men will always make the same choices, albeit in different ways, a fact evidenced by patriarchy all over the globe. From Britain to Afghanistan, wherever men are in control, patriarchy thrives, and women receive second class status.
My plea is this, to any woman reading this, if you have not already aligned yourself with radical feminist causes, if you are not yet working to end patriarchy, to end the power men have over women, my question is why?
Don’t you deserve better? Better than being labelled a second class citizen?
If you are disheartened because you feel men will never relinquish their power you are right.
But we don’t need men to give up their power. Because we have the power to take it from them.
If you think I’m wrong, just imagine this.
If every woman on the planet said no to patriarchy, stuck two fingers up to misogyny, if every woman united in support, the way sisters can unite and have proved they can unite before, the way we have united in other struggles against injustice, do you think we would still have a patriarchy?
I think not. I know not.
If women everywhere unite in solidarity, patriarchy will be done with overnight.
It wouldn’t matter what men want or how much they resisted. Half the world’s population is more than enough to win this war. Let’s pluck misogyny out by the root and create a culture where misogyny cannot thrive, a world that nourishes and cherishes women. And after we create this world, then let’s remain ever watchful so misogyny can never grow back.
If you have a female body, don’t you want to live in a world where you can flourish? I know that world is long overdue…
Look up your local radfem group on FB, or other online spaces, and look too, for ways to reach out and connect with radical feminists in the offline world.
Let’s band together in sisterly solidarity and make a world that loves and respects women.