Dear liberal feminists from a radfem sister

Dear Liberal Feminists,

If you are a liberal feminist, you probably see self proclaimed radical feminists like me as the enemy. After all, you’ve been taught to hate feminists like me, yet do you ever wonder why, when all we are fighting for is women’s liberation from male violence, male domination, and male control?

Women make up around 52% of every countries population, when we unite sisterhood is so powerful. You only have to look to the past, to the incredible gains made for women by our Second Wave sisters, to see what can happen when women unite.

Who would benefit from turning us against each other?

In whose interests do you think it is, to prioritize male interests and whims, over female bodied people’s real needs, real oppression, and real concern?

I am not against you but we both know we live in a patriarchy, and though you are probably familiar with that word, you might not realise exactly what it means, what it has done to you, to me, to all of us in society, even to men.

Patriarchy had taught us all to hate women, taught us all too well.

So well, so effectively, even when we are women ourselves, patriarchy teaches us that other women, even when they fight with our best interests at heart, are the enemy, if they dare put female needs over male ones.

Do you really believe a white, middle class trans “woman” born into a male body, and all the privilege that comes with having one, is truly more oppressed than a black working class biologically female lesbian?

The liberal left tells you yes, trans women are more oppressed, the most oppressed. And you follow what they say, and turn against your sisters, sisters who are fighting for your rights, who will always fight for your rights, even though you hate us, spit in our faces and scream TERF at us over and over again.

We are fighting for you because we love you, we love all women, even the ones that piss us off, even the ones that spit and scream in our faces.

We love women because we are women and we have unlearned the lessons of patriarchy which teaches us to hate ourselves.

Loving women is not something our society encourages. That’s why it hates radical feminists so much, because we do love women, and we will fight for women’s interests, over men’s.

So you attack us, following the current liberal dogma, screaming TERF even though somewhere inside, if you really stop and think, you know something feels wrong.

Why does it feel wrong sometimes?

Think about who is telling you to turn against us?

Who tells you trans women are the most oppressed, who screams it the loudest?

Does this sentiment most often and most strongly come from male mouths, or female ones?

Has your movement ever centred ONE thing that exclusively could ONLY effect biological females?

You know, things like child brides, honour killings of Muslim women, female infanticide, abortion, poor girls who are prevented from going to school because of lack of access to sanitary products, Female Genital Mutilation, breastfeeding mothers?

Think about it.

Now ask yourself this question.

Do you really still think you’re part of a truly feminist movement?

The reason for most women’s oppression is our biology, not our gender identity.

This is not to say, some passing trans women, won’t be perceived as having female biology and suffer some, a tiny fraction of the discrimination that born women face from birth.

But even then, they have a lifetime of male socialisation, male privilege, and they still have male biology, a biology our society loves, a body we privilege in nearly every walk of life.

Are you sure your movement really cares about women with female biology?

How can you be sure when they tell you female biology doesn’t exist, that a vagina is not female, that uteruses are just a body part?

Do you believe that’s true?

Do you really believe trans women’s are women just because they say they are?

Do you really, truly believe that a female child in Pakistan could tell her “husband” she was male, and he would not force her into marriage, not force her into his bed?

If not why not?

Is it because of her biology?

Is it because you know, deep down, that saying something doesn’t necessarily make it so, particularly when it comes to ignoring the scientific fact of biology?

Could your father have given birth to you?

If not, why not?

All we are doing, us witches, us TERFS, is trying to keep the hard won sex based rights, and legal protections, our sisters secured for women back in the 70’s and 80’s.

We are doing this not because we hate trans people, because we don’t hate them, nor do we wish them any harm.

We don’t want to stop trans people dressing how they want, or even changing their bodies, if they want, though we don’t want the medical establishment to give harmful blockers like Lupron to children under the age of 16.

We definitely would be the first ones out screaming on the streets if anyone tried to take away the protections and rights that trans people currently have under the protected category of Gender Reassignment, which guarantees them access to healthcare, respect, and protection from discrimination.

We definitely think it would be healthier to dismantle the system of gender itself, which pushes harmful, limiting stereotypes on men and women, than it is to medicate healthy bodies, and cut of healthy sexual organs.

But we can’t stop grown adults doing what they want to their bodies and we don’t want to. That’s not what this is about.

What this is about are the harmful proposed Self ID laws the UK government and many other governments around the world are currently considering. We don’t agree with allowing anyone to self identify and say they are a woman just because they say so..

Because in this patriarchal society, which hates women, and resents the gains towards liberation we have made, we know what is likely to happen if you allow just anyone to say they are a woman.

We know because it’s already happening.

Women can’t say we suffer oppression because of our biology. We can’t state this simple fact or we are called TERFs. You know this is true because this is what you call us yourself.

And soon, it will be hate speech to speak this simple truth.

But will that stop the female genital mutilation, the sexual harassment that women exponentially suffer from because men see female biology and assign lesser value to it, the rapes, the lack of sanitary protection for poor women, the domestic violence, the murder, the many, many degrading pornographic images and videos of people with female biology.

Can you be sure the Self ID law won’t be abused by predators like Ian Huntley, who is now self identifying as Nicola, the name of one of his victim’s mother?

Will making female biology hate speech end all the injustice and oppression biological women and girls suffer from?

Will passing self ID guarantee that predatory men who hate women won’t use it as a chance to trample over the gains born women have made?

If so, carry on doing what you are doing.

If not, you might want to reconsider whose interests you are fighting for when you centre male interests, and place male needs over women’s, over your own.

I know you’re just trying to survive in a world that hates women, people with female biology.

I know it feels good to feel like your the special one, the cool girl, the one who isn’t hated by men.

But they only act like they don’t hate you because at the moment at least you’re useful to them. You do everything they tell you to do don’t you?

Have you tried to see what would happen when you voice a contrary opinion or try to centre your own female needs to Leftie men like Owen Jones?

I think inside you already know.

Do you really think when they won’t even let women organise against our own sex oppression as class, that Leftie men really care about you?

You are a woman after all. And not the kind liberal left guys like Owen Jones like.

You’re have the wrong biology for that I’m afraid.

The worst part is, liberal left is guys like Owen Jones don’t even see trans women as women.

They show that they see trans women as men, by centering them, and supporting them, even when trans women threaten violence to an incredibly oppressed group, biological women and girls.

Leftie men like Owen Jones show that they really see trans women as men when they let trans women tell born women how to identify, telling us we must use the term cis.

Leftie guys like Owen won’t even let born women define ourselves, let alone define anyone else.

That’s how we know they see trans women as men. But they see you as a woman. They will always see you as just a woman.

Because of your biology.

And if one day you need help and support, they won’t be there for you, because they don’t care.

But we care. And we will always be there.

If you think that by selling your sisters out, by turning away from us, or by screaming TERF at us, it will make the kind of men who hate women love you or even like you, you are sadly mistaken.

The only kind of women they will ever like or love, are the kind they really see as men.

If you are reading this, know we radical feminists will always fight for you. But we can’t guarantee we will win, because women are hated, especially women who fight for other women.

We will never give up,though we wish you would join us.

Because the simple truth is, if you and other women like you stand with us, if all women stand with us, we know we could end all this injustice, put a stop to all the oppression.

We know this because we, women are half the population, and we know this because sisterhood is powerful.

Love,

Your radfem Sister

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